Trust and the Elusive Makeover

So many times, as a stylist, I find myself looking into the mirror at a client who desperately wants to change but lets fear keep them from it.

I have had many longtime clients say to me "I would love to go on one of those makeover shows! I am always a bit flummoxed by this. "Hello???" I want to say. "What am I, chopped liver?"

But one of those many who, when I asked why they fear letting me, as their regular stylist, make them over, said because it would be easier to let a stranger do it since they don't have a relationship with that stranger.

Springtime is a great time to allay some of those makeover fears that some of you may have.

First of all, many of you have spent years building up your relationship with your stylist. So why not take a leap of faith and trust them?

If you are feeling a bit stuck, talk to your stylist about it. Tell one of our fabulous receptionists that you are thinking of a big change and need extra time. Even if you spend that whole half hour consulting and only get a trim.

These days, with all the access to social media, you can find a myriad of ideas for styles and color and products. It's always good to have some kind of visual idea of what you have in mind.

Once you've armed yourself with ideas and made an appointment, it's time to really dig in and think long and hard about the change you're looking for. So many times, clients come in and say that they really want to change but they don't want to cut any length.Or they bring a picture of Victoria Beckham and say they want that haircut but they want it to be down to their shoulders which means it is no longer Victoria Beckham. Don't fence yourself in. Keep an open mind. And find a variety of lengths that you would actually be willing to consider. Change does not mean that you have to cut off all your hair. If you don't want to cut a lot of hair, maybe a big color change is what you need. Trust your stylist's intuition, though. They are not going to do something that will make you look bad. Keep your mind open. How many times have you seen a haircut on someone and said "Sure, she can carry that style," or "I wish I had the guts to cut my hair off"? We are very aware and understanding of the psychological hold our hair has on us.

I see so many women and men come in and they are dressed very stylishly and carry the latest designer bags or sport the coolest glasses and yet they will not change their hair.

So many people, especially women, give their hair way too much credit. Keeping your lenght or the style you had ten or twelve or twenty years ago is absolutely not going to make you look younger or thinner or make your butt look smaller or any of the other miraculous things we think our hair is doing for us. More often than not, keeping that style you had ten years ago may be doing the exact opposite...it could be making you look ten years older. But that doesn't mean that women of a certain age can't have long hair. Nor does it mean that you have to wait until your kids are in college to cut your hair short. Why fall into the stereotype?

There are many ways to change your style without cutting all your hair off.Sometimes,  baby steps are the best way to begin. Add some highlights. Put layers where you never had them before. Grow out your bangs. Add a side bang. Take off two or three inches. Make it a shade darker or lighter. Try a different styling product.

As your Soto beauty experts, we have well over a hundred years experience between us. We go to classes, subscribe to trade magazines and stay on top of the latest techniques via internet access. When one of us learns something new we pass it on to each other. Use our knowledge. Pick our brains. Beauty is our job but it is also our passion. We love what we do and we love using our knowledge to help you look and feel your best. Come in and let us make you over. No need to go on a TV show. We are here whenever you are ready for that change, big or small.

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